Preached at 10:30 on 16 March 2025 at Christ Church, Billericay
It can be viewed here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SfbyUoEzEmk from 26:00 to 44:00.
Prayer
Father, Through these words this morning, help us to understand the cost of being a disciple.
Amen.
Introduction
Jesus has told his disciples that there is a cost to choosing to become a disciple. In the 1980s through to the 2000s, there was a TV show, where contestants had to guess the price of certain items to win those items. To remind us of that we’re going to play the game in a church way – because I can’t afford prizes worth £1000s.
[Slides 2 – 7 Play the game, 3 rounds with 3 people guessing the price of a pack of sweets or a chocolate bar. Have consolation prizes, in case the children don't win.]
Value
So, I don’t know if you thought that those prices represent the real value of the products or not? They are, of course, the price I had to pay for them.
Everything has a cost
Everything we do has a cost, whether that’s buying sweets, or major life decisions. If you decide to live one way, the cost may be that you cannot do certain things, that you may otherwise have been able to. With some lifestyles, there will be a cost to your health, or even your longevity. Jesus is trying to explain to his disciples, and the huge crowd that is following Him, the true cost of becoming a disciple.
Outrageous – Hate (25&26)
To do that, He is being outrageous, or at least that’s how it appears to us. We have to go back two verses to get the full power of what Jesus is saying:
25 Large crowds
were travelling with Jesus, and turning to them he said: 26
“If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife
and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even their own life—such
a person cannot be my disciple.
Now, I for one, would not expect Jesus to advocate hating anyone, especially not the family that God has placed us in. So, what’s going on? Well, it’s mainly a translation issue. The word that gets translated ‘hate’ really implies something of low priority, something that we don’t care about very much. Matthew 10:37, puts it in a way that is easier for us to understand:
“Anyone who loves his
father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves
his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; 38
and anyone who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of
me.”
Carrying the cross
Which brings us nicely back to carrying your cross. I wonder what comes to mind when you hear someone say “We all have our cross to bear”? It almost certainly doesn’t mean what it meant to Jesus’s many hearers in the first century. To carry a cross, in Jesus time, meant that you were in the queue for execution.
Here’s Monty Python’s take on it from the ‘Life of Brian’.
What I love about this clip is the extreme politeness, contrasting with the incredibly awful thing that is happening to the men in the queue.
Our understanding, today, takes much of the horror away from what Jesus is saying. “If you want to be my disciple, be ready to lose your life”. It’s said to get an effect, but it’s also true. That is the cost of being a disciple.
Costs
Jesus goes on to give two other examples – one about building a tower and the other about a king going to war.
Building
If you’ve ever watched Grand Designs, or tried to do your own building, you will know how difficult it is to get the cost of any type of building right. That’s why you have to get the help of experts and be very cautious in what you agree to. Otherwise, you’re likely to suffer a horrible overspend, or not get the job completed. Jesus may have been alluding to Herod’s temple, which was apparently unfinished at the time, work had been going on for years.
War
I don’t suppose any of us have ever planned out the cost of going to war, but just like the people in Jesus’s time, we are very familiar with the wars and the costs involved with them. We get that from our media. You will hear that leaders are not able to calculate the costs of a war. Putin thought that Ukraine would be overrun in a few days. In Jesus time, stories would be heard – some true, some just rumours. Remember, their country was occupied by the Romans.
Cost of being a disciple
There are many other ways of understanding the cost of being a disciple. It can be thought of as a journey, with a fork in the road. If you take one fork, it leads you to a life of hard work, where your main concern is providing for your family and trying to get rich, or at least comfortable. You may have to make compromises on that road, and do things you find distasteful, or you may not care what your actions do to others, and exploit everyone you can, just to get ahead.
The other fork in the road leads to a life given to God, where all that you do puts Jesus and his teachings first, and your own needs and that of your family take second place. It can lead to difficult times or even premature death. Dietrich Bonhoeffer wrote a book called “The Cost of Discipleship”, where he looks at what that means in the modern world (well, the 1930s actually) but it’s still an interesting and challenging read.
Bonhoeffer was executed by the Nazis for his beliefs, just before the end of WWII. The cost to him was literally his life.
The price is right
I will finish by trying to describe to you my decision process. That is going to leave us with a difficult question – one that I suspect you won’t be able to answer – I certainly can’t.
In my early 20s, I was invited to church by a friend, after some long discussions about the reliability of the Bible, and who Christ really was. I joined the youth group, and it was the young people there, and they way they lived their lives, that finally convinced me to make the decision to follow Jesus.
So far as I remember, no-one talked to me about the cost of becoming a disciple. The idea that there was a cost, and my understanding of the price to be paid, came along much later.
So, my question is: “Should we make the cost clear to anyone thinking seriously about making a commitment?”
Initially, I just thought that Jesus had paid the price for our sin on the cross, and that allowed us to have eternal life. That’s true, of course, but the reality is that we have to pay a price too. It is impossible to follow Jesus, without our lives changing. The decision to follow him takes us down a particular path. In order to get eternal life, we have to give up our sinful lives, and that means there are things we can no longer do:
— we can no longer exploit others, or belittle them, or insult them
— we can no longer lie and cheat our way through life
If you want a more detailed list, read the 10 commandments.
There are also things we must do
— we must as Jesus says Love our neighbour as ourselves
— above that, though, we must love God and be dedicated to His Son.
In other words, the price we pay for our salvation, is to give up our old, failing lives, and accept our new, and everlasting life.
The Price is right for us, because we have nothing else to give but ourselves.
Amen
References
https://sermonsfrommyheart.com/2019/09/07/luke-1425-33-the-cost-of-following-jesus/
https://sermoncentral.com/sermons/the-cost-of-being-a-disciple-carl-willis-sermon-on-endurance-35382
https://sermons4kids.com/sermons/counting-the-cost
https://ministry-to-children.com/d-is-for-disciple-coloring-page/
https://ministry-to-children.com/count-the-cost-sermon/